Okay this is a non crafting post, more ranting then anything else so if you wanna read about the crafts scroll past please.
I got dumped. I honestly don't think I've ever been dumped before. I mean I've had break ups, and ended relationships, but no one has ever flat out dumped me. It's a little odd and hard to get used to.
The strange thing is that I was dumped by someone who I was never really in a relationship with. I mean I had Rob, and Rob and I were together for 4 years (2 of which we co-habitated) and really I let that one get beat to death. I mean Rob and I probably should have lasted only 3 years but whatever, and by the time it was over I wasn't grief stricken on obsessed, I was ready to move on.
But this guy, I met him 6 weeks ago, we spoke for 2 and dated for 3 and then wham, out of no where I'm on the express train to dumpsville, population me. It was so out of no where and poorly handled. I mean we went from seeing each other at least twice a week and speaking 5 nights a week to a sudden collapse in communication. When I did finally get him on the phone it was dump time.
Him: Um this isn't working
Me: What do you mean, "isn't working" you were at my house with fucking soup and walking my dog cause I was sick last week.
Him: We're different people
Me: Obviously, you can't date your damn self.
Him: I didn't want to disrespect you.
Me: Then you should have had the balls to do it in person and not over the phone.
Him: Well in person it would have been a drawn out thing I mean your obviously angry
Me: I think I have that right.
Him: Maybe it's just we took things too fast
Me: You're the one who wanted exclusivity
Him: I mean I want to keep talking to you.
Me: I have enough friends
Him: Well maybe it's not done but I need a few days to think things over. I'll call you, I promise.
Me: And do I have a say in the decision.
Him: You can choose not to pick up the phone.
Me: Fine bye, go think.
That was over a week ago, now obviously a few days can be longer then a week but puh-leese, I'm not a moron. You're not going to call, cause you were just trying to get me off the phone.
Today I sent a text message, despite the fact that I was trying hard to put up a strong front and resist the urge to contact. I simply stated
"I have your jacket and a tee-shirt, I'm not holding on to them past tomorrow, let me know what to do with them or I will throw them out."
I have yet to get a response, I am so totally dumped. I need a scotch and a girls weekend.
The strange thing is that I didn't even know him enough to have like any sort of emotional attachment, for all I know he kills bunnies for fun in his spare time, but I think it's because I didn't get to know him, or figure out who he was and how I should respond to him that I'm making myself even crazier. I didn't love him, he didn't love me, so why is this making me more nuts then when I ended a four year relationship?
What did you do when you got dumped, any tricks to coping?